some life advice from the past few years .. Inspiration @alex_elle @selenagomez

Hey readers 🌹

it’s been a while since I’ve posted. I’ve been working on multiple passion projects to spread the message that your feelings matter and that you are loved ( so stay tuned with that). I have to admit there were times where I haven’t exactly felt like myself but I am on a journey ( baby steps) in learning how to re build that confidence. I just wanted to share some of my insights into this as this self discovery path never ends.

THINGS TO NOTE

There isn’t anything wrong with you if you don’t feel the best version of yourself or if you’re mentally slipping away from your vibrant self. Sometimes there could be hidden triggers that could cause this to happen and you might not even be aware of it at first. Some examples of signs to help you notice these patterns include losing motivation in the things you love, feeling disconnected from the world around you, doubting your self worth, constantly overthinking etc. Once you find yourself in that state, a whirlwind of emotions could hit you. Easier said than done, but It’s so important to not let yourself fall into the hole where your emotions could drag you down even more. I call this the rabbit hole and each time it hits differently. There could be times in the past year where It’s been easier (ex. towards the end of quarantine) and there are times it could be much harder when there’s a new transition in life.

the key thing to note is that you don’t always have to feel unmotivated and powerless.

YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE 🙂

and I hope this small guide can give you some relatable advice to your situations.

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IMPORTANT QUOTES I WANT TO SHARE

“Healing is not linear. You’re going to have set backs in life and that’s perfectly normal”

We all have our own ways when it comes to healing but I do want to address on a certain misconception. There doesn’t necessarily have to be one single particular event or situation that you need to heal from. Since I strongly believe that healing is not linear, once you do a bit of soul searching, you might realise there could be other past events you haven’t fully healed from ( it could subconsciously impact you till this day )and that’s completely fine.

” Take good care of your body. Eat plenty of healthy and yummy food and don’t limit yourself.”

SUGGESTIONS WHEN IT COMES TO EXPRESSING YOURSELF

Some of my personal insights…..

PHOTOGRAPHY

I love the beauty of photography. Personally, being able to find quotes or images that resonate with how I currently feel can give me a sense of peace that I’m not abnormal for feeling this way. Being able to do that is also a sign of caring for yourself and to show how all your emotions are completely valid.

SONG WRITING / WRITING

I love writing with a passion. Whether that’s journaling or the fact that letters can create such an emotional impact in pulling my heart strings at times is what fascinates me the most. I’m someone who’s extremely emotional and when I spend time alone, I pour my heart into a place ( my notepad) where I believe is safe and nonjudgemental. Along with the music tone, it can establish such a meaningful impact. However, this could also be extremely hard at times as writing it out could also cause more pain and the struggles of facing certain realities.

but I honestly write about everything… From falling in love to getting heart broken, to getting betrayed, feeling energetic, at peace with yourself or just feeling lonely at times. Writing these feelings out help me have a better understanding of my emotions and that’s what I love about writing.

AESTHETICS & CREATING ART

I’m not an expert in art but I do understand the creative element that comes with it. From aesthetic building to creating your curated master piece, the sense of self accomplishment and self validation can come after you create a personal art work. For me, the idea of aesthetics and image placement truly speaks to my heart. Whether that’s magazine cut outs or placing certain objects next to each other for a photograph each element has its own meaning. But something I’ve noticed about the beauty of art comes with the mystery and uncertainty. Each art work has its own narrative but when you present it to the world, everyone would have a different interpretation and that’s where you can bring your message in.

AFTER THOUGHTS

I hope this article was helpful for any of you that are going through / have been through something similar. I think it’s so important ( if you are comfortable ) to share your insights to the world so that we could encourage each other to be more kind and gentle with ourselves. Though mental health month was in May, every month should matter when it comes to your mental health 🙂