Ur 2021 summer guide to living your best life….

Ur 2021 summer guide to living your best life….

With the scorching sun making its way to mid June and with the city re opening ( Here in Hong Kong) , this summer is bound to be different from the last one. If you either notice a group of people swarming and rushing towards the ocean waves or hitting the new clubs over the weekends, you’ll know that this summer is far different from the last. So what better timing than to share some of my personal advice on how you can live your best and most vibrant life this summer…..

What do you mean by living your best life ?

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When we ask the question of what living your life means, everyone’s going to have a different answer. But something common I’ve noticed is the importance of feeling both mentally and physically confident with who you are: your authentic self – not the facade that you put onto the world.

Part of living your best life is learning how to cope with your stress through finding a balance, motivating, CHALLENGING yourself and most importantly do things you love FOR YOU and not for anyone else. It’s also having a better understanding of your own energy. However, the part that we all differ is the question of WHAT can you do or what are the BABY steps that you should take to ensure you are truly satisfied fulfilled and content with yourself.

For me, living my best life comes with a healthy routine, working through my emotions or concerns instead of suppressing, self care acts, investing time into the things that make me feel happy, being surrounded by the people that can lift me up and the work hard, play hard mindset.

MENTALLY THRIVING

Setting new goals, challenging yourself, pursing your passions: I’m a strong believer in learning how to love yourself and finding success from your passions. But honestly, this could mean anything. From individual workout goals to hiking on a new trail or even working on a passion project. On top of that, when you surround yourself with likeminded people as you, that’s where the motivation and creativity kicks in.

Learning how to cope with your stress: we all face stress. You might have those days where you have too much on your plate and you feel as if your jar is overflowing with work and papers due, but here are some ways that can help when it comes to managing stress

Don’t forget to heal: yes, some may say what if I don’t have anything to heal from? or what if I don’t want to heal because I can’t endure the pain of thinking of the past and I’m ready to move on…. but healing isn’t linear so once you do some soul searching, you’ll be able to become even more vulnerable with who you are.

ACTIVITIES

Part of living your life can include trying new things out of your comfort zone. This may not apply to everyone as we all have different preferences but I’m someone who not only enjoys to become introverted from now and then at home, but to spend time in mother nature. Here are just some examples and some positive summer activities that could lift your energy up from now and then…

Summer tan

sun kissed glow can boost confidence 

Tennis

Boat trip’s this year

Hitting the beaches 

start to think from the grateful perspective

Wakesurf

Cook a new meal…

Mentally ~

Having a routine 

Self care 

Skin care routine 

Wellness check in with yourself

AFTER THOUGHT

If there’s one thing that the pandemic has taught us, it’s the importance of learning how to take care of yourself from the boredom that many of us faced during times of quarantine. Since we can’t control the external factors, we do have the power to control what can make us feel better about ourselves. These small steps can help you find what will make you feel content with your life…

HOW TO BOUNCE BACK WHEN YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS SLIPPING

HOW TO BOUNCE BACK WHEN YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS SLIPPING

some life advice from the past few years .. Inspiration @alex_elle @selenagomez

Hey readers 🌹

it’s been a while since I’ve posted. I’ve been working on multiple passion projects to spread the message that your feelings matter and that you are loved ( so stay tuned with that). I have to admit there were times where I haven’t exactly felt like myself but I am on a journey ( baby steps) in learning how to re build that confidence. I just wanted to share some of my insights into this as this self discovery path never ends.

THINGS TO NOTE

There isn’t anything wrong with you if you don’t feel the best version of yourself or if you’re mentally slipping away from your vibrant self. Sometimes there could be hidden triggers that could cause this to happen and you might not even be aware of it at first. Some examples of signs to help you notice these patterns include losing motivation in the things you love, feeling disconnected from the world around you, doubting your self worth, constantly overthinking etc. Once you find yourself in that state, a whirlwind of emotions could hit you. Easier said than done, but It’s so important to not let yourself fall into the hole where your emotions could drag you down even more. I call this the rabbit hole and each time it hits differently. There could be times in the past year where It’s been easier (ex. towards the end of quarantine) and there are times it could be much harder when there’s a new transition in life.

the key thing to note is that you don’t always have to feel unmotivated and powerless.

YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE 🙂

and I hope this small guide can give you some relatable advice to your situations.

IMPORTANT QUOTES I WANT TO SHARE

“Healing is not linear. You’re going to have set backs in life and that’s perfectly normal”

We all have our own ways when it comes to healing but I do want to address on a certain misconception. There doesn’t necessarily have to be one single particular event or situation that you need to heal from. Since I strongly believe that healing is not linear, once you do a bit of soul searching, you might realise there could be other past events you haven’t fully healed from ( it could subconsciously impact you till this day )and that’s completely fine.

” Take good care of your body. Eat plenty of healthy and yummy food and don’t limit yourself.”

SUGGESTIONS WHEN IT COMES TO EXPRESSING YOURSELF

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Some of my personal insights…..

PHOTOGRAPHY

I love the beauty of photography. Personally, being able to find quotes or images that resonate with how I currently feel can give me a sense of peace that I’m not abnormal for feeling this way. Being able to do that is also a sign of caring for yourself and to show how all your emotions are completely valid.

SONG WRITING / WRITING

I love writing with a passion. Whether that’s journaling or the fact that letters can create such an emotional impact in pulling my heart strings at times is what fascinates me the most. I’m someone who’s extremely emotional and when I spend time alone, I pour my heart into a place ( my notepad) where I believe is safe and nonjudgemental. Along with the music tone, it can establish such a meaningful impact. However, this could also be extremely hard at times as writing it out could also cause more pain and the struggles of facing certain realities.

but I honestly write about everything… From falling in love to getting heart broken, to getting betrayed, feeling energetic, at peace with yourself or just feeling lonely at times. Writing these feelings out help me have a better understanding of my emotions and that’s what I love about writing.

AESTHETICS & CREATING ART

I’m not an expert in art but I do understand the creative element that comes with it. From aesthetic building to creating your curated master piece, the sense of self accomplishment and self validation can come after you create a personal art work. For me, the idea of aesthetics and image placement truly speaks to my heart. Whether that’s magazine cut outs or placing certain objects next to each other for a photograph each element has its own meaning. But something I’ve noticed about the beauty of art comes with the mystery and uncertainty. Each art work has its own narrative but when you present it to the world, everyone would have a different interpretation and that’s where you can bring your message in.

AFTER THOUGHTS

I hope this article was helpful for any of you that are going through / have been through something similar. I think it’s so important ( if you are comfortable ) to share your insights to the world so that we could encourage each other to be more kind and gentle with ourselves. Though mental health month was in May, every month should matter when it comes to your mental health 🙂

🌃Your 3 day guide into the city that never sleeps

🌃Your 3 day guide into the city that never sleeps

New York City. the lights , the music, the fashion, the food – all encapsulates the beauty of the city

I’ll be honest: The truth is, there’s no way to explore all of New York within 3 days. From the exhilarating and lively Times Square to the enchanting prestigious Upper East side, even the streets in between can already takes days for you to explore. But there are definitely a few go to spots that I have to mention.

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Since the start of this blog, learning and exploring my fashion style has always been something that grounds me. “True beauty shines when you focus on the style that you love!” and if you’ve never been to the big apple, even being there for a couple of days has made the fashion vibes feel more real than ever. From every corner you can see a diversity of fashion aesthetics – from streetwear to vintage, to chic looks it just all shows how much NYC loves fashion but in particular in the streets of Fifth Avenue, Soho and Madison!

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THE ELGIN

64 W 48th St, New York

Just a two minute walk from the well known top of the rock, comes a bar & restaurant that serves delicious warm food ranging from roast beef sandwiches to burgers to homemade cream soup. The outdoor atmosphere captures all of New York’s street vibes and the french onion soup burger served with fries ( image below) is what you would want to get for lunch / dinner.

Insta: @Elgin

5TH AVENUE: THE MET & CENTRAL PARK

This street is perfect for you if you enjoy anything related to arts, museums, outdoors scenery! ( Central Park), shops or more towards the luxury vibes. I also love it here as there are way too many iconic Gossip Girl scenes @themetsteps but it also gave me a chance to dress up to another style of mine that I love. ( winter/ spring fashion fits)

THE MET
CENTRAL PARK

SOHO DISTRICT

Heading to lower Manhattan is where Soho district is at. This part of New York has a ton of trendy vibes, art galleries, architectures and stores . Soho gives off amazing street wear / street style vibes and has one of the best coffee stores. If I had more time, I do wish to explore around some of the hidden parts of this area.

QUICK SNACKS ❤

Milk Bar

My all time favourite dessert place! there’s a collection of Funfetti layered cakes, ice cream with cereal crunch, cake truffles pies and more! unfortunately, due to COVID quite a number of stores are temporarily closed, but the one near Soho is currently open!

Pizza loves Emily

If you head to West Village, you’ve got to head over to this restaurant ( photo on the right) where they serve scrumptious cheesy garlic sticks , pizzas and burgers!

Levain Bakery

NYC’s most famous cookies!

How to stay safe when travelling during the pandemic

It can be quite different and hard to travel during the midst of the pandemic, but as I was just 4 hours away from New York city, my friends and I decided to take a train. Just a reminder to wear a mask whenever you’re out, follow the social distancing rules and to always have good personal hygiene.

*also there are a ton of more amazing areas but these are just some of my top highlights from the trip

a self love podcast with the banter broadcast

a self love podcast with the banter broadcast

Hey readers

I hope you’re all having an amazing day and staying safe wherever you are in the world. A few months ago, body banter and I collaborated and recorded a podcast that talks about mental health and some of my insights with learning how to ground and start to love myself through my discovery in the beauty of fashion. 

The link is below but I want to remind you of how powerful, beautiful and enough you all are. In the podcast, I mention a bit about my personal insights when it comes to body confidence in the world of social media and how destructive or empowering the instagram community can be. With my platform, I really hope I’m able to create an authentic environment where I truly show how there are good and bad days in life. Sometimes you’ll feel confident and powerful, (just like the badass bit*h you’ve always been )but there are some days where you feel as if life is falling apart and all you want to do is lie in bed and stay there forever. Either way, this feeling is completely normal.

Taking care of your body, mind and heart is truly important and everyone has their own ways of bringing joy into their life/ managing their stress 🙂

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REMINDERS

  • You are never defined by a like, a comment or how people think of you on social media 
  • It’s ok to slip and compare yourself from now and then but don’t forget your worth!!
  • your mental health matters ❤
  • the road of confidence isn’t easy, so be gentle with yourself
  • healing is not linear so don’t push yourself
  • we all have something that brings joy into our lives 🦋

🌟2021 all about manifesting your dream life

🌟2021  all about manifesting your dream life

We’re 11 days into 2021 and I have to stop and talk about what manifesting your dream life in 2021 would mean and how to do it. But before that a recap. Overall, 2020 has certainly been a difficult year. I’ve struggled quite a bit as I felt as if Covid took life away from me at times: there were a ton of random mental break downs, quarantine life adjustments and not being able to go to my very first year of college. The same time, I’ve also come to understand more about what my anxiety meant for while starting this blog and being able to connect with a ton of amazing people in the instagram and blogging community about topics like this.

but if you’re on this page, you most likely want to learn how to either change some things from your past year or possibly make this year your very best year despite all the uncertainty and I can tell you it’s always possible by changing your vibe and mindset!

WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY MANIFESTING YOUR LIFE?

I’m a strong believer when it comes to the law of attraction. It’s definitely so much easier said than done, but I do think that happiness is a choice. Behind this choice comes your mindset and the way you view your life (what are things you are grateful for, what can genuinely bring happiness to you, vibes and higher vibration). By visioning what you want your life to be is the very first step to achieving a positive mindset.

HOW TO MANIFEST YOUR DREAM LIFE?

2020 journal recap Before you move onto thinking about your dream life or 2021, I think it’s always great to spend some time thinking about how this year went by for you. What did 2020 teach you? I used to care so much about how others think about me and especially on social media. But honestly, you gotta give less fuc*s about what people “think” about you if what you do truly makes you happy.

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Goal setting

This could be anything for you. You can always start off from a broad topic such as health goals then narrow to a specific one like having a morning routine to bring a more positive mindset. Other goals can include working towards a new business plan, taking better care of yourself through self care and meditation, exploring your passions or building that job resume.

Vision board

the vision board technique is something new that I’m currently trying but I do think it’s quite a fun and creative project as you have relatable images that could help your goal achieving process. You can either make this digitally, create a physical digital board or even draw how you vision your accomplishments would be like.

Checking in with your energy

As the year goes on it’s so important to just check in with yourself and to stay in touch with your body. You can do this through meditation, journaling or even self reflection. Your energy is one of the most important factors when it comes to higher energy vibration. As hard as it can be, know that you always have the power to be in control of your thoughts, actions and the vibe you choose in life.

After thought

So what are some of your goals? have you started writing down how you vision your life to be like in 2021?

These morning tips can help you find happiness during uncertain times.

These morning tips can help you find happiness during uncertain times.

I can’t express enough how it’s completely fine to have both good and bad days. You can’t expect yourself to feel the best version of yourself every single day and there’s no reason to beat yourself over for that. Just like I said in my mental health post, if there are days that you feel as if you’re slipping let it be, if you’re struggling know that this feeling won’t last forever but there are ways that can help change this pain.

With all the uncertainty and struggles that many of us had gone through ( especially during this year) it can be hard to stay positive. Here are some tips that have helped me get through some of my own mental health struggles during these times: starting from a change in my morning routine

If you can’t change the situation, you can always change how you view it.” it’s easier said than done but by slowly changing the way you view a fixed situation, you’ll be able to finally find peace from within.

5 minute stretches

to make your mornings productive: Something I try to do as much as possible is starting my mornings off with mindful stretches while playing my Spotify playlist. This doesn’t just help reduce my anxiety, but helps me bring more positive vibes so that I can have a certain intention for the rest of my day.

Journal

to get your head clear and to manage your emotions: if this is something that you want to try, just write down anything that you’re thinking about the second that you get up. By writing whatever flows to your mind, it can help reduce the unnecessary stress and lead you to a fresh start to your day.

Skin care routine

mindful, fun and beneficial: Something new that I’ve started is adding the jade roller and gua sha practice into my morning routine. It’s not only great for boosting circulation, reducing puffiness, increasing glow but the 5 – 15 minute skin care practice can let you be mindful and to become more appreciative of your body.

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The positivity talk

Being kind to yourself, asking yourself what you’re grateful ( create a list) are all great ways to start your mornings too.

here are some examples of positive and helpful quotes

After Thought

These are just some morning insights I’ve gained throughout these few months and it has helped me change my energy intention for the day, my motivation and to continue to find beauty within life when everything’s uncertain. It’s always important to be kind, to check in with yourself and some of these morning routines can be considered as self care practices and a step into body positivity.

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Can fashion connect to self love?

Can fashion connect to self love?

“True beauty shines when you focus on the style that you love!”

🍂To all my beautiful readers and the new ones who just joined, welcome and I hope you’re all doing well!

I’ve been currently working on my first self love retreat event that I’m hosting here in Hong Kong and it’s definitely something I’m extremely passionate and excited about. It’s a retreat that talks about self care acts, body positivity, the importance of mental health and sustainable fashion! But something I want to mention today is My about page, and how one of the ways that helps keep me grounded is finding my style through fashion.

Here’s a little story: 🦋

I used to be extremely self critical when it came to my appearance. Along with my anxious thoughts, I did struggle quite a bit through my high school years. Then when quarantine hit I realised that the process of learning about fashion, exploring different styles of mine truly brought joy into my life. It was the journey to finding that aesthetic, the style that speaks to me that made me feel much more confident and powerful about myself and my body.

I wouldn’t say I’m completely at the point where I’m happy with myself every single minute ( as there are days where I still slip from now and then) but it’s the journey to finding my authentic style that lets me step into self love more.

“Finding your fashion style can be an example of a self-care act, but a step to self-love.”

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WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?

Something I’ve realised about building my own confidence is being genuine and authentic with myself. If you’re someone who’s in a similar position, an advice I would give is to ask yourself if this is the style that truly speaks to you.

I’m not saying to not take inspirations from social media or current trends but sometimes by checking in with yourself and your styles, this can be the start for you to feel more confident about yourself.

Soon after you’ll be able to look at yourself and feel like that beautiful, worth it or bad as* bitc* that you’ve always been. True beauty shines when you focus on the style that you genuinely love !

AFTER THOUGHT

Self-care acts and self-love can be different for everyone but one of the ways that I’ve explored and I’m still exploring is through my love for fashion and finding styles that genuinely make me happy. What about you? what are some of your ways?

2020 FALL FASHION TRENDS

2020 FALL FASHION TRENDS

Fall is finally here! and there’s no doubt that this year has been quite different. Whether you’ve been doing online school, you’ve been working from home or even on campus, I do think it’s always important to have a mental check-in with yourself and to do things that genuinely bring joy to your life. 

For me, fashion and exploring my style is definitely one of my self-care acts that helps develop my self-love in the long run. ( I’ll talk more about this in a future post and how you can find ways to develop self-love) 

But with the nostalgic early 2000s making a comeback into the fashion world and with the Y2K style still trending, I thought why not share some of my favourite fall outfit trends. 

THE ARGYLE LOVER

Back in the 1920s, the argyle pattern became fashionable along with the mini-skirts, pleated skirts which created the entire preppy/ sporty like look. This type of style was also brought into various runway collections and was a huge trend. 

TIPS: Argyle sweater/ sweater vest + tennis/pleated skirt + polo crop under + knee high socks

This year, the argyle pattern has especially made a comeback into the world of streetwear fashion, preppy and chic looks. 

BROWN AESTHETIC FIT

This type of style is currently trending on both instagram and TikTok when it comes to this years’ fall fashion trends. It’s the simplicity of a brown top, or pants that can create such an aesthetic fall vibe to your entire outlook.

TIP: low rise brown jeans

Brown crop + sweatpants

FALL SHOE TRENDS

Both black knee high boots and the Mary Jane boots are one of my favourite inspirational look for this year.

The Mary Jane like boot style is not only a classic look in the preppy collection ( but by adding high knee socks and a mini skirt, it can create the whole school girl vibe) In fact, it’s becoming more popular in the fashion streetwear world.

Black knee high boots: Just like the second photo, these boots look great with a dress, skirt or even shorts!

YOUR FAVOURITE PREPPY STYLE

Similar to what I’ve mentioned in this blog post, the preppy style is still currently trending in the social media world. However, to add this style into the fall collection, any type of crew neck hoodie with a polo shirt and a tennis skirt under would give it a comfortable, yet seasonal style. ( This style dates back to the vintage days)

HOME WEAR

Lastly, the home wear style! With quarantine introduced back in March, I know I’ve started to get comfortable with different home wear pieces , but especially hoodies and sweatpants. So to add to this, I included a few tie dye / Neutral inspirational pattern looks below.

In fact a lot of online stores such as Princess Polly, Boohoo and Verge girl have these type of clothing.

AFTER THOUGHT

I know it’s been a while since I’ve posted, so I just wanted to add more of a fun fashion post this time! Next week, I’ll talk more about how I’m in the journey of finding my authentic style through fashion and how this self care process is a step to self love for me!

THE ANXIETY GUIDE

THE ANXIETY GUIDE

WHAT TO DO AND HOW TO HELP

It took me a while to write this post as it’s still a personal and ongoing situation for me, but I do believe that my story and insights can be helpful to some. For as long as I can remember, I struggled with anxiety. Of course, there were times where I was happy and did well but for a good few years, my anxiety had taken a turn and I fell into the hole of uncertainty, self-sabotage, and darkness. I felt as if there was no escape to it. Day after day I struggled with getting through this uncertainty and growing up in an environment where mental health wasn’t completely accepted made it even harder. 

TAKING CONTROL OF MY ANXIETY

It was through time that I learned how to take control of my anxiety by turning to self acceptance and learning what self love meant to me. ( here you can read more about how I interpret what self love means.)

By turning to self acceptance I began to truly spend time understanding what anxiety meant to me in a nonjudgmental approach, I would notice some of the reoccurring patterns and eventually learn how to embrace that there’s nothing to be ashamed of if I felt this certain way.

By turning to self love , I found peace and self-acceptance from within. I also break self-love down into these three things: understanding yourself, prioritizing yourself, and finally embracing who you are. 

On top of that, a few of you guys have also asked me about ways to cope with anxiety so here’s a slideshow that I made to show how you don’t have to feel this way forever and what you can do to help others who are going through this.

AFTER THOUGHT

These are just suggestions that I have when it comes to how I broke my cycle of anxiety, but at the end of the day do what makes you feel most comfortable. It’s also a lot easier said than done, but to me I believe that you don’t always have to feel this way by learning how to respect, embrace and finding that inner strength.

My top 7 self-care quarantine tips

My top 7 self-care quarantine tips

For many of us, quarantine was a new experience. Some of us struggled through the days of boredom ( even getting our entire sleep schedule messed up oop!), while others aimed for that quarantine glow up and stayed productive. 

But for me, it was quite a new experience. Online school was not only new but being stuck at home for most of the time was especially different from the busy lifestyle I’d grown up in. 

I was practically forced to spend time with myself. I needed something to keep me grounded under all this uncertainty. One of the many things that kept me grounded was getting into the world of aesthetics- where I developed my passion for fashion and found my style. 

MY TOP 7 SELF CARE QUARANTINE TIPS

that also helped me step into self love *just a reminder there’s a difference between self-care and self-love

Matcha and Meditation

I love drinking matcha( especially in the morning) so during quarantine I would combine this with my meditation practices! Click this link to learn more about how I make my own matcha and what are some of the health benefits.

The Pinterest scan – to find my style

 One of the biggest turning points for me during quarantine was definitely finding my own style and discovering my passion for fashion. Whether it’s trendsetting streetwear, Y2k aesthetics, or just simple thrifting, these were some of my go-to inspirations where I discovered my aesthetics. 

And It was from there I realized

Chloe ting’s workout:

With quarantine, I transitioned to at-home workout. This way, I can continue to feel good about myself, keep in shape, and one of my favourite routines were Chloe tings workout

Netflix and face mask: 

I’m sure most of us watched tv shows or movies during the days of lockdown (or still are!) so I added a face mask,  part of my skincare routine, with a Netflix movie and get all cozy. 

Clean/ Room decor: 

It could be reorganizing your closets or even just a simple clean up. For me, changing my entire room to the minimalist vibe really spoke to me as a step to finding my authentic style

DIY activities : 

This is also a great time to get into some DIY ( do it yourself) activities to help you explore your creativity and can also act as a therapeutic hobby!

GAMING

To me, gaming is a self-care activity. Especially with quarantine, I definitely thought it was a great way to connect with your friends as well as maintaining a balanced lifestyle. 

AFTERTHOUGHT

Though I’ve mentioned these 7 self-care things to do, there’s always another list, these are just my personal favourites. Don’t force yourself to become busy when it comes to self-love or alone time, try to find what genuinely brings joy to your life.