Ur 2021 summer guide to living your best life….

Ur 2021 summer guide to living your best life….

With the scorching sun making its way to mid June and with the city re opening ( Here in Hong Kong) , this summer is bound to be different from the last one. If you either notice a group of people swarming and rushing towards the ocean waves or hitting the new clubs over the weekends, you’ll know that this summer is far different from the last. So what better timing than to share some of my personal advice on how you can live your best and most vibrant life this summer…..

What do you mean by living your best life ?

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When we ask the question of what living your life means, everyone’s going to have a different answer. But something common I’ve noticed is the importance of feeling both mentally and physically confident with who you are: your authentic self – not the facade that you put onto the world.

Part of living your best life is learning how to cope with your stress through finding a balance, motivating, CHALLENGING yourself and most importantly do things you love FOR YOU and not for anyone else. It’s also having a better understanding of your own energy. However, the part that we all differ is the question of WHAT can you do or what are the BABY steps that you should take to ensure you are truly satisfied fulfilled and content with yourself.

For me, living my best life comes with a healthy routine, working through my emotions or concerns instead of suppressing, self care acts, investing time into the things that make me feel happy, being surrounded by the people that can lift me up and the work hard, play hard mindset.

MENTALLY THRIVING

Setting new goals, challenging yourself, pursing your passions: I’m a strong believer in learning how to love yourself and finding success from your passions. But honestly, this could mean anything. From individual workout goals to hiking on a new trail or even working on a passion project. On top of that, when you surround yourself with likeminded people as you, that’s where the motivation and creativity kicks in.

Learning how to cope with your stress: we all face stress. You might have those days where you have too much on your plate and you feel as if your jar is overflowing with work and papers due, but here are some ways that can help when it comes to managing stress

Don’t forget to heal: yes, some may say what if I don’t have anything to heal from? or what if I don’t want to heal because I can’t endure the pain of thinking of the past and I’m ready to move on…. but healing isn’t linear so once you do some soul searching, you’ll be able to become even more vulnerable with who you are.

ACTIVITIES

Part of living your life can include trying new things out of your comfort zone. This may not apply to everyone as we all have different preferences but I’m someone who not only enjoys to become introverted from now and then at home, but to spend time in mother nature. Here are just some examples and some positive summer activities that could lift your energy up from now and then…

Summer tan

sun kissed glow can boost confidence 

Tennis

Boat trip’s this year

Hitting the beaches 

start to think from the grateful perspective

Wakesurf

Cook a new meal…

Mentally ~

Having a routine 

Self care 

Skin care routine 

Wellness check in with yourself

AFTER THOUGHT

If there’s one thing that the pandemic has taught us, it’s the importance of learning how to take care of yourself from the boredom that many of us faced during times of quarantine. Since we can’t control the external factors, we do have the power to control what can make us feel better about ourselves. These small steps can help you find what will make you feel content with your life…

HOW TO BOUNCE BACK WHEN YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS SLIPPING

HOW TO BOUNCE BACK WHEN YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS SLIPPING

some life advice from the past few years .. Inspiration @alex_elle @selenagomez

Hey readers 🌹

it’s been a while since I’ve posted. I’ve been working on multiple passion projects to spread the message that your feelings matter and that you are loved ( so stay tuned with that). I have to admit there were times where I haven’t exactly felt like myself but I am on a journey ( baby steps) in learning how to re build that confidence. I just wanted to share some of my insights into this as this self discovery path never ends.

THINGS TO NOTE

There isn’t anything wrong with you if you don’t feel the best version of yourself or if you’re mentally slipping away from your vibrant self. Sometimes there could be hidden triggers that could cause this to happen and you might not even be aware of it at first. Some examples of signs to help you notice these patterns include losing motivation in the things you love, feeling disconnected from the world around you, doubting your self worth, constantly overthinking etc. Once you find yourself in that state, a whirlwind of emotions could hit you. Easier said than done, but It’s so important to not let yourself fall into the hole where your emotions could drag you down even more. I call this the rabbit hole and each time it hits differently. There could be times in the past year where It’s been easier (ex. towards the end of quarantine) and there are times it could be much harder when there’s a new transition in life.

the key thing to note is that you don’t always have to feel unmotivated and powerless.

YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE 🙂

and I hope this small guide can give you some relatable advice to your situations.

IMPORTANT QUOTES I WANT TO SHARE

“Healing is not linear. You’re going to have set backs in life and that’s perfectly normal”

We all have our own ways when it comes to healing but I do want to address on a certain misconception. There doesn’t necessarily have to be one single particular event or situation that you need to heal from. Since I strongly believe that healing is not linear, once you do a bit of soul searching, you might realise there could be other past events you haven’t fully healed from ( it could subconsciously impact you till this day )and that’s completely fine.

” Take good care of your body. Eat plenty of healthy and yummy food and don’t limit yourself.”

SUGGESTIONS WHEN IT COMES TO EXPRESSING YOURSELF

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Some of my personal insights…..

PHOTOGRAPHY

I love the beauty of photography. Personally, being able to find quotes or images that resonate with how I currently feel can give me a sense of peace that I’m not abnormal for feeling this way. Being able to do that is also a sign of caring for yourself and to show how all your emotions are completely valid.

SONG WRITING / WRITING

I love writing with a passion. Whether that’s journaling or the fact that letters can create such an emotional impact in pulling my heart strings at times is what fascinates me the most. I’m someone who’s extremely emotional and when I spend time alone, I pour my heart into a place ( my notepad) where I believe is safe and nonjudgemental. Along with the music tone, it can establish such a meaningful impact. However, this could also be extremely hard at times as writing it out could also cause more pain and the struggles of facing certain realities.

but I honestly write about everything… From falling in love to getting heart broken, to getting betrayed, feeling energetic, at peace with yourself or just feeling lonely at times. Writing these feelings out help me have a better understanding of my emotions and that’s what I love about writing.

AESTHETICS & CREATING ART

I’m not an expert in art but I do understand the creative element that comes with it. From aesthetic building to creating your curated master piece, the sense of self accomplishment and self validation can come after you create a personal art work. For me, the idea of aesthetics and image placement truly speaks to my heart. Whether that’s magazine cut outs or placing certain objects next to each other for a photograph each element has its own meaning. But something I’ve noticed about the beauty of art comes with the mystery and uncertainty. Each art work has its own narrative but when you present it to the world, everyone would have a different interpretation and that’s where you can bring your message in.

AFTER THOUGHTS

I hope this article was helpful for any of you that are going through / have been through something similar. I think it’s so important ( if you are comfortable ) to share your insights to the world so that we could encourage each other to be more kind and gentle with ourselves. Though mental health month was in May, every month should matter when it comes to your mental health 🙂

a self love podcast with the banter broadcast

a self love podcast with the banter broadcast

Hey readers

I hope you’re all having an amazing day and staying safe wherever you are in the world. A few months ago, body banter and I collaborated and recorded a podcast that talks about mental health and some of my insights with learning how to ground and start to love myself through my discovery in the beauty of fashion. 

The link is below but I want to remind you of how powerful, beautiful and enough you all are. In the podcast, I mention a bit about my personal insights when it comes to body confidence in the world of social media and how destructive or empowering the instagram community can be. With my platform, I really hope I’m able to create an authentic environment where I truly show how there are good and bad days in life. Sometimes you’ll feel confident and powerful, (just like the badass bit*h you’ve always been )but there are some days where you feel as if life is falling apart and all you want to do is lie in bed and stay there forever. Either way, this feeling is completely normal.

Taking care of your body, mind and heart is truly important and everyone has their own ways of bringing joy into their life/ managing their stress 🙂

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REMINDERS

  • You are never defined by a like, a comment or how people think of you on social media 
  • It’s ok to slip and compare yourself from now and then but don’t forget your worth!!
  • your mental health matters ❤
  • the road of confidence isn’t easy, so be gentle with yourself
  • healing is not linear so don’t push yourself
  • we all have something that brings joy into our lives 🦋

These morning tips can help you find happiness during uncertain times.

These morning tips can help you find happiness during uncertain times.

I can’t express enough how it’s completely fine to have both good and bad days. You can’t expect yourself to feel the best version of yourself every single day and there’s no reason to beat yourself over for that. Just like I said in my mental health post, if there are days that you feel as if you’re slipping let it be, if you’re struggling know that this feeling won’t last forever but there are ways that can help change this pain.

With all the uncertainty and struggles that many of us had gone through ( especially during this year) it can be hard to stay positive. Here are some tips that have helped me get through some of my own mental health struggles during these times: starting from a change in my morning routine

If you can’t change the situation, you can always change how you view it.” it’s easier said than done but by slowly changing the way you view a fixed situation, you’ll be able to finally find peace from within.

5 minute stretches

to make your mornings productive: Something I try to do as much as possible is starting my mornings off with mindful stretches while playing my Spotify playlist. This doesn’t just help reduce my anxiety, but helps me bring more positive vibes so that I can have a certain intention for the rest of my day.

Journal

to get your head clear and to manage your emotions: if this is something that you want to try, just write down anything that you’re thinking about the second that you get up. By writing whatever flows to your mind, it can help reduce the unnecessary stress and lead you to a fresh start to your day.

Skin care routine

mindful, fun and beneficial: Something new that I’ve started is adding the jade roller and gua sha practice into my morning routine. It’s not only great for boosting circulation, reducing puffiness, increasing glow but the 5 – 15 minute skin care practice can let you be mindful and to become more appreciative of your body.

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The positivity talk

Being kind to yourself, asking yourself what you’re grateful ( create a list) are all great ways to start your mornings too.

here are some examples of positive and helpful quotes

After Thought

These are just some morning insights I’ve gained throughout these few months and it has helped me change my energy intention for the day, my motivation and to continue to find beauty within life when everything’s uncertain. It’s always important to be kind, to check in with yourself and some of these morning routines can be considered as self care practices and a step into body positivity.

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