something that I want to talk about is the real truth behind all the Instagram, Pinterest or self care post that you see. I’ve always talked highly about your own self care journey, finding what works best for you and I’ve also shared my own set of self care acts with all of you. However, what I want to bring attention to is how this is a consistent process.
When it comes to my mental health slipping, that’s the time that I tend to spend working even more on my mental health and turning to all my self care acts . What I realise is the second I feel somewhat stable with my emotions, I’m not as consistent with my self care acts. Feeling this way is completely normal as we’re all human but the same time it’s so important to continue being in check with yourself and making sure you’re in tune with your feelings.
❤ THE KEY TO SELF CARE, IS TO HAVE CONSISTENCY ❤
Learning how to take care of yourself isn’t just something you do when you feel down or you aren’t your very best, you keep it going through the bad and good days and that can gradually bring so much more closure to you.
Here’s an example, if journaling works out for you, you don’t only journal when you feel down. To make sure that you don’t slip into that hole as fast as the last time, you would keep this process going on even when you feel completely normal. Keeping in check with how you feel is a life long process and even if you find a way to “escape it” temporarily it’ll hit you when you don’t realise or when a new trigger pops up.
SOME NEW THINGS I’VE TRIED
Yoga – little lighter than working out but you focus on your heart and body
cooking – this could also be seen as a mindful practice, but it’s always fun to learn a new dish
staying in the sun/ outdoor before the winter
not saying yes to everything –> this is something I’ve worked on for a very long time but I wouldn’t say yes to every event or gathering that I’m invited to as it’s also important to maintain and keep your energy
*side note: Personally, when it comes to my anxiety, having a daily routine and knowing what will go on for the next week helps reduce my stress and anxiety
Hope you’re all doing well! It’s been a little over a year since I started my blog and at times it still shocks me how I’ve been able to connect and talk to so many of you just by sharing what I truly believe in. Whether it’s my top self care acts, my current favourite fashion trends, the lessons I’ve learned about how to bounce back or finding your definition of confidence, I’m truly blessed and grateful to have a platform on Instagram and word press to share my insights. On top of that, I’ve met so many fascinating and inspirational entrepreneurs that have big goals when it comes to their passion. And as a result of that, I just want to talk about my very first wellness and body positivity event that I’m hosting here in Hong Kong!!
THE CONFIDENCE GALLERY
A wellness networking pop up store that celebrates uniqueness from within & without. I truly hope to create a day that celebrates vulnerability and each of our uniqueness.
As a lifestyle blogger ( katchingvibeswithkat.com) and entrepreneur, I usually share my insights through the online community. As powerful as I’ve experienced the online community can be, I also hope to bring these similar feelings to the face to face world through building a safe zone for people to feel vulnerable and embrace their authentic selves.
We live in such a judgemental world where self-criticism, hatred, and unhealthy body comparisons are very real and impactful. Along with being in the midst of the rising digital era, it has made it even more challenging for many’s mental health. Therefore, I do hope this event can be served as a day where our community not only aim towards breaking the down unrealistic standards of beauty but can celebrate every individual’s uniqueness from within and without.
On the day ( this coming Saturday) there will be photo booths, drinks, food, speeches from three insightful entrepreneurs and a marketplace for guests to buy their favourite wellness products sponsored by several vendors.
HERE’S A SNEAK PEEK
” It’s not narcissistic to celebrate who you are. That’s creative, don’t hide that light! shine through”
– Kat Tse
Part of building your confidence comes from believing, embracing and loving who you completely are. So much easier said than done, but don’t hide your authentic part just because society has been shaped a certain way, believe in yourself.
Can’t wait to share more with all of you around the world!
With the scorching sun making its way to mid June and with the city re opening ( Here in Hong Kong) , this summer is bound to be different from the last one. If you either notice a group of people swarming and rushing towards the ocean waves or hitting the new clubs over the weekends, you’ll know that this summer is far different from the last. So what better timing than to share some of my personal advice on how you can live your best and most vibrant life this summer…..
What do you mean by living your best life ?
When we ask the question of what living your life means, everyone’s going to have a different answer. But something common I’ve noticed is the importance of feeling both mentally and physically confident with who you are: your authentic self – not the facade that you put onto the world.
Part of living your best life is learning how to cope with your stress through finding a balance, motivating, CHALLENGING yourself and most importantly do things you love FOR YOU and not for anyone else. It’s also having a better understanding of your own energy. However, the part that we all differ is the question of WHAT can you do or what are the BABY steps that you should take to ensure you are truly satisfied fulfilled and content with yourself.
For me, living my best life comes with a healthy routine, working through my emotions or concerns instead of suppressing, self care acts, investing time into the things that make me feel happy, being surrounded by the people that can lift me up and the work hard, play hard mindset.
Setting new goals, challenging yourself, pursing your passions: I’m a strong believer in learning how to love yourself and finding success from your passions. But honestly, this could mean anything. From individual workout goals to hiking on a new trail or even working on a passion project. On top of that, when you surround yourself with likeminded people as you, that’s where the motivation and creativity kicks in.
Learning how to cope with your stress: we all face stress. You might have those days where you have too much on your plate and you feel as if your jar is overflowing with work and papers due, but here are some ways that can help when it comes to managing stress
Don’t forget to heal: yes, some may say what if I don’t have anything to heal from? or what if I don’t want to heal because I can’t endure the pain of thinking of the past and I’m ready to move on…. but healing isn’t linear so once you do some soul searching, you’ll be able to become even more vulnerable with who you are.
Part of living your life can include trying new things out of your comfort zone. This may not apply to everyone as we all have different preferences but I’m someone who not only enjoys to become introverted from now and then at home, but to spend time in mother nature. Here are just some examples and some positive summer activities that could lift your energy up from now and then…
sun kissed glow can boost confidence
Boat trip’s this year
Hitting the beaches
start to think from the grateful perspective
Cook a new meal…
Having a routine
Skin care routine
Wellness check in with yourself
If there’s one thing that the pandemic has taught us, it’s the importance of learning how to take care of yourself from the boredom that many of us faced during times of quarantine. Since we can’t control the external factors, we do have the power to control what can make us feel better about ourselves. These small steps can help you find what will make you feel content with your life…
some life advice from the past few years .. Inspiration @alex_elle @selenagomez
Hey readers 🌹
it’s been a while since I’ve posted. I’ve been working on multiple passion projects to spread the message that your feelings matter and that you are loved ( so stay tuned with that). I have to admit there were times where I haven’t exactly felt like myself but I am on a journey ( baby steps) in learning how to re build that confidence. I just wanted to share some of my insights into this as this self discovery path never ends.
THINGS TO NOTE
There isn’t anything wrong with you if you don’t feel the best version of yourself or if you’re mentally slipping away from your vibrant self. Sometimes there could be hidden triggers that could cause this to happen and you might not even be aware of it at first. Some examples of signs to help you notice these patterns include losing motivation in the things you love, feeling disconnected from the world around you, doubting your self worth, constantly overthinking etc. Once you find yourself in that state, a whirlwind of emotions could hit you. Easier said than done, but It’s so important to not let yourself fall into the hole where your emotions could drag you down even more. I call this the rabbit hole and each time it hits differently. There could be times in the past year where It’s been easier (ex. towards the end of quarantine) and there are times it could be much harder when there’s a new transition in life.
the key thing to note is that you don’t always have to feel unmotivated and powerless.
YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE 🙂
and I hope this small guide can give you some relatable advice to your situations.
IMPORTANT QUOTES I WANT TO SHARE
“Healing is not linear. You’re going to have set backs in life and that’s perfectly normal”
We all have our own ways when it comes to healing but I do want to address on a certain misconception. There doesn’t necessarily have to be one single particular event or situation that you need to heal from. Since I strongly believe that healing is not linear, once you do a bit of soul searching, you might realise there could be other past events you haven’t fully healed from ( it could subconsciously impact you till this day )and that’s completely fine.
” Take good care of your body. Eat plenty of healthy and yummy food and don’t limit yourself.”
SUGGESTIONS WHEN IT COMES TO EXPRESSING YOURSELF
Some of my personal insights…..
I love the beauty of photography. Personally, being able to find quotes or images that resonate with how I currently feel can give me a sense of peace that I’m not abnormal for feeling this way. Being able to do that is also a sign of caring for yourself and to show how all your emotions are completely valid.
SONG WRITING / WRITING
I love writing with a passion. Whether that’s journaling or the fact that letters can create such an emotional impact in pulling my heart strings at times is what fascinates me the most. I’m someone who’s extremely emotional and when I spend time alone, I pour my heart into a place ( my notepad) where I believe is safe and nonjudgemental. Along with the music tone, it can establish such a meaningful impact. However, this could also be extremely hard at times as writing it out could also cause more pain and the struggles of facing certain realities.
but I honestly write about everything… From falling in love to getting heart broken, to getting betrayed, feeling energetic, at peace with yourself or just feeling lonely at times. Writing these feelings out help me have a better understanding of my emotions and that’s what I love about writing.
AESTHETICS & CREATING ART
I’m not an expert in art but I do understand the creative element that comes with it. From aesthetic building to creating your curated master piece, the sense of self accomplishment and self validation can come after you create a personal art work. For me, the idea of aesthetics and image placement truly speaks to my heart. Whether that’s magazine cut outs or placing certain objects next to each other for a photograph each element has its own meaning. But something I’ve noticed about the beauty of art comes with the mystery and uncertainty. Each art work has its own narrative but when you present it to the world, everyone would have a different interpretation and that’s where you can bring your message in.
I hope this article was helpful for any of you that are going through / have been through something similar. I think it’s so important ( if you are comfortable ) to share your insights to the world so that we could encourage each other to be more kind and gentle with ourselves. Though mental health month was in May, every month should matter when it comes to your mental health 🙂
I hope you’re all having an amazing day and staying safe wherever you are in the world. A few months ago, body banter and I collaborated and recorded a podcast that talks about mental health and some of my insights with learning how to ground and start to love myself through my discovery in the beauty of fashion.
The link is below but I want to remind you of how powerful, beautiful and enough you all are. In the podcast, I mention a bit about my personal insights when it comes to body confidence in the world of social media and how destructive or empowering the instagram community can be. With my platform, I really hope I’m able to create an authentic environment where I truly show how there are good and bad days in life. Sometimes you’ll feel confident and powerful, (just like the badass bit*h you’ve always been )but there are some days where you feel as if life is falling apart and all you want to do is lie in bed and stay there forever. Either way, this feeling is completely normal.
Taking care of your body, mind and heart is truly important and everyone has their own ways of bringing joy into their life/ managing their stress 🙂
You are never defined by a like, a comment or how people think of you on social media
It’s ok to slip and compare yourself from now and then but don’t forget your worth!!
your mental health matters ❤
the road of confidence isn’t easy, so be gentle with yourself
healing is not linear so don’t push yourself
we all have something that brings joy into our lives 🦋
We’re 11 days into 2021 and I have to stop and talk about what manifesting your dream life in 2021 would mean and how to do it. But before that a recap. Overall, 2020 has certainly been a difficult year. I’ve struggled quite a bit as I felt as if Covid took life away from me at times: there were a ton of random mental break downs, quarantine life adjustments and not being able to go to my very first year of college. The same time, I’ve also come to understand more about what my anxiety meant for while starting this blog and being able to connect with a ton of amazing people in the instagram and blogging community about topics like this.
but if you’re on this page, you most likely want to learn how to either change some things from your past year or possibly make this year your very best year despite all the uncertainty and I can tell you it’s always possible by changing your vibe and mindset!
WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY MANIFESTING YOUR LIFE?
I’m a strong believer when it comes to the law of attraction. It’s definitely so much easier said than done, but I do think that happiness is a choice. Behind this choice comes your mindset and the way you view your life (what are things you are grateful for, what can genuinely bring happiness to you, vibes and higher vibration). By visioning what you want your life to be is the very first step to achieving a positive mindset.
HOW TO MANIFEST YOUR DREAM LIFE?
2020 journal recap Before you move onto thinking about your dream life or 2021, I think it’s always great to spend some time thinking about how this year went by for you. What did 2020 teach you? I used to care so much about how others think about me and especially on social media. But honestly, you gotta give less fuc*s about what people “think” about you if what you do truly makes you happy.
This could be anything for you. You can always start off from a broad topic such as health goals then narrow to a specific one like having a morning routine to bring a more positive mindset. Other goals can include working towards a new business plan, taking better care of yourself through self care and meditation, exploring your passions or building that job resume.
the vision board technique is something new that I’m currently trying but I do think it’s quite a fun and creative project as you have relatable images that could help your goal achieving process. You can either make this digitally, create a physical digital board or even draw how you vision your accomplishments would be like.
Checking in with your energy
As the year goes on it’s so important to just check in with yourself and to stay in touch with your body. You can do this through meditation, journaling or even self reflection. Your energy is one of the most important factors when it comes to higher energy vibration. As hard as it can be, know that you always have the power to be in control of your thoughts, actions and the vibe you choose in life.
So what are some of your goals? have you started writing down how you vision your life to be like in 2021?
I can’t express enough how it’s completely fine to have both good and bad days. You can’t expect yourself to feel the best version of yourself every single day and there’s no reason to beat yourself over for that. Just like I said in my mental health post, if there are days that you feel as if you’re slipping let it be, if you’re struggling know that this feeling won’t last forever but there are ways that can help change this pain.
With all the uncertainty and struggles that many of us had gone through ( especially during this year) it can be hard to stay positive. Here are some tips that have helped me get through some of my own mental health struggles during these times: starting from a change in my morning routine
“If you can’t change the situation, you can always change how you view it.” it’s easier said than done but by slowly changing the way you view a fixed situation, you’ll be able to finally find peace from within.
5 minute stretches
to make your mornings productive: Something I try to do as much as possible is starting my mornings off with mindful stretches while playing my Spotify playlist. This doesn’t just help reduce my anxiety, but helps me bring more positive vibes so that I can have a certain intention for the rest of my day.
to get your head clear and to manage your emotions: if this is something that you want to try, just write down anything that you’re thinking about the second that you get up. By writing whatever flows to your mind, it can help reduce the unnecessary stress and lead you to a fresh start to your day.
Skin care routine
mindful, fun and beneficial: Something new that I’ve started is adding the jade roller and gua sha practice into my morning routine. It’s not only great for boosting circulation, reducing puffiness, increasing glow but the 5 – 15 minute skin care practice can let you be mindful and to become more appreciative of your body.
The positivity talk
Being kind to yourself, asking yourself what you’re grateful ( create a list) are all great ways to start your mornings too.
here are some examples of positive and helpful quotes
These are just some morning insights I’ve gained throughout these few months and it has helped me change my energy intention for the day, my motivation and to continue to find beauty within life when everything’s uncertain. It’s always important to be kind, to check in with yourself and some of these morning routines can be considered as self care practices and a step into body positivity.
“True beauty shines when you focus on the style that you love!”
🍂To all my beautiful readers and the new ones who just joined, welcome and I hope you’re all doing well!
I’ve been currently working on my first self love retreat event that I’m hosting here in Hong Kong and it’s definitely something I’m extremely passionate and excited about. It’s a retreat that talks about self care acts, body positivity, the importance of mental health and sustainable fashion! But something I want to mention today is My about page, and how one of the ways that helps keep me grounded is finding my style through fashion.
Here’s a little story: 🦋
I used to be extremely self critical when it came to my appearance. Along with my anxious thoughts, I did struggle quite a bit through my high school years. Then when quarantine hit I realised that the process of learning about fashion, exploring different styles of mine truly brought joy into my life. It was the journey to finding that aesthetic, the style that speaks to me that made me feel much more confident and powerful about myself and my body.
I wouldn’t say I’m completely at the point where I’m happy with myself every single minute ( as there are days where I still slip from now and then) but it’s the journey to finding my authentic style that lets me step into self love more.
“Finding your fashion style can be an example of a self-care act, but a step to self-love.”
WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?
Something I’ve realised about building my own confidence is being genuine and authentic with myself. If you’re someone who’s in a similar position, an advice I would give is to ask yourself if this is the style that truly speaks to you.
I’m not saying to not take inspirations from social media or current trends but sometimes by checking in with yourself and your styles, this can be the start for you to feel more confident about yourself.
Soon after you’ll be able to look at yourself and feel like that beautiful, worth it or bad as* bitc* that you’ve always been. True beauty shines when you focus on the style that you genuinely love !
Self-care acts and self-love can bedifferent for everyone but one of the ways that I’ve explored and I’m still exploring is through my love for fashion and finding styles that genuinely make me happy. What about you? what are some of your ways?
It took me a while to write this post as it’s still a personal and ongoing situation for me, but I do believe that my story and insights can be helpful to some. For as long as I can remember, I struggled with anxiety. Of course, there were times where I was happy and did well but for a good few years, my anxiety had taken a turn and I fell into the hole of uncertainty, self-sabotage, and darkness. I felt as if there was no escape to it. Day after day I struggled with getting through this uncertainty and growing up in an environment where mental health wasn’t completely accepted made it even harder.
TAKING CONTROL OF MY ANXIETY
It was through time that I learned how to take control of my anxiety by turning to self acceptance and learning what self love meant to me. ( here you can read more about how I interpret what self love means.)
By turning to self acceptance I began to truly spend time understanding what anxiety meant to me in a nonjudgmental approach, I would notice some of the reoccurring patterns and eventually learn how to embrace that there’s nothing to be ashamed of if I felt this certain way.
By turning to self love , I found peace and self-acceptance from within. I also break self-love down into these three things: understanding yourself, prioritizing yourself, and finally embracing who you are.
On top of that, a few of you guys have also asked me about ways to cope with anxiety so here’s a slideshow that I made to show how you don’t have to feel this way forever and what you can do to help others who are going through this.
These are just suggestions that I have when it comes to how I broke my cycle of anxiety, but at the end of the day do what makes you feel most comfortable. It’s also a lot easier said than done, but to me I believe that you don’t always have to feel this way by learning how to respect, embrace and finding that inner strength.