I hope you’re all having an amazing day and staying safe wherever you are in the world. A few months ago, body banter and I collaborated and recorded a podcast that talks about mental health and some of my insights with learning how to ground and start to love myself through my discovery in the beauty of fashion.
The link is below but I want to remind you of how powerful, beautiful and enough you all are. In the podcast, I mention a bit about my personal insights when it comes to body confidence in the world of social media and how destructive or empowering the instagram community can be. With my platform, I really hope I’m able to create an authentic environment where I truly show how there are good and bad days in life. Sometimes you’ll feel confident and powerful, (just like the badass bit*h you’ve always been )but there are some days where you feel as if life is falling apart and all you want to do is lie in bed and stay there forever. Either way, this feeling is completely normal.
Taking care of your body, mind and heart is truly important and everyone has their own ways of bringing joy into their life/ managing their stress 🙂
You are never defined by a like, a comment or how people think of you on social media
It’s ok to slip and compare yourself from now and then but don’t forget your worth!!
your mental health matters ❤
the road of confidence isn’t easy, so be gentle with yourself
healing is not linear so don’t push yourself
we all have something that brings joy into our lives 🦋
We’re 11 days into 2021 and I have to stop and talk about what manifesting your dream life in 2021 would mean and how to do it. But before that a recap. Overall, 2020 has certainly been a difficult year. I’ve struggled quite a bit as I felt as if Covid took life away from me at times: there were a ton of random mental break downs, quarantine life adjustments and not being able to go to my very first year of college. The same time, I’ve also come to understand more about what my anxiety meant for while starting this blog and being able to connect with a ton of amazing people in the instagram and blogging community about topics like this.
but if you’re on this page, you most likely want to learn how to either change some things from your past year or possibly make this year your very best year despite all the uncertainty and I can tell you it’s always possible by changing your vibe and mindset!
WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY MANIFESTING YOUR LIFE?
I’m a strong believer when it comes to the law of attraction. It’s definitely so much easier said than done, but I do think that happiness is a choice. Behind this choice comes your mindset and the way you view your life (what are things you are grateful for, what can genuinely bring happiness to you, vibes and higher vibration). By visioning what you want your life to be is the very first step to achieving a positive mindset.
HOW TO MANIFEST YOUR DREAM LIFE?
2020 journal recap Before you move onto thinking about your dream life or 2021, I think it’s always great to spend some time thinking about how this year went by for you. What did 2020 teach you? I used to care so much about how others think about me and especially on social media. But honestly, you gotta give less fuc*s about what people “think” about you if what you do truly makes you happy.
This could be anything for you. You can always start off from a broad topic such as health goals then narrow to a specific one like having a morning routine to bring a more positive mindset. Other goals can include working towards a new business plan, taking better care of yourself through self care and meditation, exploring your passions or building that job resume.
the vision board technique is something new that I’m currently trying but I do think it’s quite a fun and creative project as you have relatable images that could help your goal achieving process. You can either make this digitally, create a physical digital board or even draw how you vision your accomplishments would be like.
Checking in with your energy
As the year goes on it’s so important to just check in with yourself and to stay in touch with your body. You can do this through meditation, journaling or even self reflection. Your energy is one of the most important factors when it comes to higher energy vibration. As hard as it can be, know that you always have the power to be in control of your thoughts, actions and the vibe you choose in life.
So what are some of your goals? have you started writing down how you vision your life to be like in 2021?
I can’t express enough how it’s completely fine to have both good and bad days. You can’t expect yourself to feel the best version of yourself every single day and there’s no reason to beat yourself over for that. Just like I said in my mental health post, if there are days that you feel as if you’re slipping let it be, if you’re struggling know that this feeling won’t last forever but there are ways that can help change this pain.
With all the uncertainty and struggles that many of us had gone through ( especially during this year) it can be hard to stay positive. Here are some tips that have helped me get through some of my own mental health struggles during these times: starting from a change in my morning routine
“If you can’t change the situation, you can always change how you view it.” it’s easier said than done but by slowly changing the way you view a fixed situation, you’ll be able to finally find peace from within.
5 minute stretches
to make your mornings productive: Something I try to do as much as possible is starting my mornings off with mindful stretches while playing my Spotify playlist. This doesn’t just help reduce my anxiety, but helps me bring more positive vibes so that I can have a certain intention for the rest of my day.
to get your head clear and to manage your emotions: if this is something that you want to try, just write down anything that you’re thinking about the second that you get up. By writing whatever flows to your mind, it can help reduce the unnecessary stress and lead you to a fresh start to your day.
Skin care routine
mindful, fun and beneficial: Something new that I’ve started is adding the jade roller and gua sha practice into my morning routine. It’s not only great for boosting circulation, reducing puffiness, increasing glow but the 5 – 15 minute skin care practice can let you be mindful and to become more appreciative of your body.
The positivity talk
Being kind to yourself, asking yourself what you’re grateful ( create a list) are all great ways to start your mornings too.
here are some examples of positive and helpful quotes
These are just some morning insights I’ve gained throughout these few months and it has helped me change my energy intention for the day, my motivation and to continue to find beauty within life when everything’s uncertain. It’s always important to be kind, to check in with yourself and some of these morning routines can be considered as self care practices and a step into body positivity.
“True beauty shines when you focus on the style that you love!”
🍂To all my beautiful readers and the new ones who just joined, welcome and I hope you’re all doing well!
I’ve been currently working on my first self love retreat event that I’m hosting here in Hong Kong and it’s definitely something I’m extremely passionate and excited about. It’s a retreat that talks about self care acts, body positivity, the importance of mental health and sustainable fashion! But something I want to mention today is My about page, and how one of the ways that helps keep me grounded is finding my style through fashion.
Here’s a little story: 🦋
I used to be extremely self critical when it came to my appearance. Along with my anxious thoughts, I did struggle quite a bit through my high school years. Then when quarantine hit I realised that the process of learning about fashion, exploring different styles of mine truly brought joy into my life. It was the journey to finding that aesthetic, the style that speaks to me that made me feel much more confident and powerful about myself and my body.
I wouldn’t say I’m completely at the point where I’m happy with myself every single minute ( as there are days where I still slip from now and then) but it’s the journey to finding my authentic style that lets me step into self love more.
“Finding your fashion style can be an example of a self-care act, but a step to self-love.”
WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?
Something I’ve realised about building my own confidence is being genuine and authentic with myself. If you’re someone who’s in a similar position, an advice I would give is to ask yourself if this is the style that truly speaks to you.
I’m not saying to not take inspirations from social media or current trends but sometimes by checking in with yourself and your styles, this can be the start for you to feel more confident about yourself.
Soon after you’ll be able to look at yourself and feel like that beautiful, worth it or bad as* bitc* that you’ve always been. True beauty shines when you focus on the style that you genuinely love !
Self-care acts and self-love can bedifferent for everyone but one of the ways that I’ve explored and I’m still exploring is through my love for fashion and finding styles that genuinely make me happy. What about you? what are some of your ways?
It took me a while to write this post as it’s still a personal and ongoing situation for me, but I do believe that my story and insights can be helpful to some. For as long as I can remember, I struggled with anxiety. Of course, there were times where I was happy and did well but for a good few years, my anxiety had taken a turn and I fell into the hole of uncertainty, self-sabotage, and darkness. I felt as if there was no escape to it. Day after day I struggled with getting through this uncertainty and growing up in an environment where mental health wasn’t completely accepted made it even harder.
TAKING CONTROL OF MY ANXIETY
It was through time that I learned how to take control of my anxiety by turning to self acceptance and learning what self love meant to me. ( here you can read more about how I interpret what self love means.)
By turning to self acceptance I began to truly spend time understanding what anxiety meant to me in a nonjudgmental approach, I would notice some of the reoccurring patterns and eventually learn how to embrace that there’s nothing to be ashamed of if I felt this certain way.
By turning to self love , I found peace and self-acceptance from within. I also break self-love down into these three things: understanding yourself, prioritizing yourself, and finally embracing who you are.
On top of that, a few of you guys have also asked me about ways to cope with anxiety so here’s a slideshow that I made to show how you don’t have to feel this way forever and what you can do to help others who are going through this.
These are just suggestions that I have when it comes to how I broke my cycle of anxiety, but at the end of the day do what makes you feel most comfortable. It’s also a lot easier said than done, but to me I believe that you don’t always have to feel this way by learning how to respect, embrace and finding that inner strength.